It doesn’t matter who you are, where you’re from, your economic status, or any other type of factor – at some point in your life, someone will offend or hurt you deeply. That someone could be a relative, a friend, a stranger, or even yourself.
It doesn’t matter who hurts you, getting over the hurt and pain can be difficult to do. If you’re not careful, you might find yourself playing the victim, consumed by your pain, anger, and sadness.
Although it may seem impossible to do at times, it is possible to let go and move on. If you’re struggling to move past the hurt that you or others have caused you, here are some tips that might help.
- Determine if you’re willing and ready to move on. This might sound kind of silly – after all, who wants to be angry forever? But sometimes it’s easier to hold on to the hurt then it is to allow yourself to heal. It’s important to be ready and to know that you’re ready.
- Express yourself. If you don’t express the pain you’ve been feeling (whether to the person who hurt you, a confidant, or just in a journal) you’ll have a hard time letting it leave you and moving on. It’s important to remember, though, that although you may be the one who was hurt, you did have some responsibility in the matter (this is not to say that the hurt was your fault). Think about what you could do differently in the future to avoid that kind of hurt again.
- Believe in yourself. Unfortunately, it’s hard to get over being hurt and, just when you think you’re making progress, you might find yourself feeling more bitter and angry than you have in a long time. Don’t give up, though. Stay strong and believe that you’ll be able to walk yourself through the pain and into a better, happier future.
- Forgive. Forgiveness does not mean that you have to forget the hurt and offense that was caused you. Forgiving someone does not automatically make what they did okay. You do not have to be okay with what happened to you in order to forgive someone. Forgiveness means that you are willing to move on from the hurt and look past the hurt the other person caused you.
- Look forward. Don’t dwell on the past. There are times when you’ll think of what happened and memories and emotions will come flooding back. Don’t dwell on them, though. Think of how far you’ve come, how much better you feel, and how you didn’t let that event dictate your happiness. Plan for the future and continue to work on becoming better.
Letting go and moving forward isn’t very easy and it might seem too difficult for you to do on your own. The good news is, you don’t have to. Through programs like our IMAGES program, you can have the guidance you need to make it through your personal journey of letting go of the past and moving forward.
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